Tuesday, April 17, 2018

Release Day Post/Giveaway: Somebody's Daughter by Rochelle B. Weinstein


A personal piece by Rochelle Weinstein:


Let’s Use Empathy and Kindness. Not Judgment and Ridicule.
 

Remembering my childhood in Miami, I recall passing a private note to my middle school best friend detailing my latest crush. As I slipped it across the floor, a classmate intercepted the note, reading my private musings with a cheeky grin on his face. My loyal friend grabbed the note from his hand, quickly ripping it into shreds. The secret was gone, the evidence contained. I could live with the glare of one classmate. An abstract confession left to billow in the breeze.
 

Not so for today’s youth. Flimsy notes are obsolete, and intimate details are shared on digital devices, powerful carriers of destruction. And the worst part? The oversharing of explicit content is not regulated or monitored. What would our childhoods look like in the age of digital media? A confession no longer crumbled in the trash, but widespread amongst so-called friends and strangers. Whether it be a stolen kiss, an experimentation in sexuality, or a private conversation, today’s youth are using their phones and computers as a stream of consciousness, sharing detailed accounts of their lives for all the world to see. And while the ease of social media makes spontaneous sharing both possible and accessible, these freedoms can come with a price.  



In my latest novel, Somebody’s Daughter, we see the far-reaching effects of social media sharing gone wrong. As parents, we believe it will never happen to our children. We’re doing the best we can with the best of intentions, careful to pass down valuable life lessons, but the reality is this: it can happen to any of us. Understanding the dynamic facing today’s teens requires returning to our childhoods and understanding our own history. Imagine that moment in time you drank too much, how you hooked up with a boy you thought you loved and trusted, the cringe-worthy days when you didn’t quite fit into your PE shorts. Now imagine the evidence being shared with your entire school, the eyes you must face each morning in what is supposed to be a safe, nurturing environment.  Or worse, your private, personal moment being shared with millions of people on the Internet. Hurts, right? Humiliating? Guaranteed.

 
The impetus for writing Somebody’s Daughter came to me for several reasons. The obvious was to shed light on the growing epidemic of suggestive online sharing and how technology is a vehicle for bullying. But there was something more to this story that tugged deep inside my heart. As I’ve raised twin sons (now 18), I’ve witnessed how scandalous stories ripe with spectacle shoot through our communities inviting criticism and ridicule. I’ve been guilty of the naive “It would never happen to my child” attitude and quietly judged parents for their child’s mistakes. I wrote Somebody’s Daughter to illustrate my and others’ complete lack of compassion for a compulsive habit that none of us truly understand. As adults, we didn’t grow up with this level of scrutiny, and children and teens are too young to understand the dangers and repercussions. Kids mess up, they make mistakes, and unfortunately, the first ones to point fingers and judge are the people closest to them—the tribes that are supposed to hold their hands and lift them up.

 
Now imagine again your indiscretions at twelve or thirteen being captured on the Internet, your innocent conversations, your private musings. Imagine being powerless to stop its reach, as though there’s a monster lurking around every corner waiting to pounce.  Imagine the helplessness, the humility, the powerlessness. I’ve often stated that social media’s greatest strengths are its greatest weaknesses. With accessibility comes lack of privacy. With community comes overexposure. With rapid-fire technology comes no take backs.

 
No one is immune to the dangers associated with online oversharing. As parents, we do all we can to ensure our children heed our lessons, but we won’t always be able to save them. If the unfortunate occurs, let’s all try to be more compassionate and understanding. It could’ve been you at fourteen. Your grand mishap on display for all to see. Wouldn’t you want those around you to be a little kinder?


Rochelle's amazing new book, Somebody's Daughter releases TODAY!
I highly recommend it to all, especially those with children.

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Emma and Bobby Ross enjoy a charmed life on the shores of Miami Beach. They are a model family with a successful business, an uncomplicated marriage, and two blessedly typical twin daughters, Zoe and Lily. They are established members of a tight-knit community.

Then, on the night of the girls’ fifteenth birthday party, they learn of Zoe’s heartbreaking mistake—a private and humiliating indiscretion that goes viral and thrusts her and her family into the center of a shocking public scandal.

As the family’s core is shattered by disgrace, judgment, and retribution, the fallout takes its toll. But for Emma, the shame runs deeper. Her daughter’s reckless behavior has stirred memories of her own secrets that could break a marriage, a family, and friendships forever.

Rochelle B. Weinstein

About Rochelle

 Hi readers and friends! I'm Rochelle Weinstein, and I love to read as much as I love to write. Check out my women's fiction novels, WHERE WE FALL, THE MOURNING AFTER, WHAT WE LEAVE BEHIND, and soon-to-be-released SOMEBODY'S DAUGHTER (4/17) or visit my shelf to see what I've been enjoying. If you're an aspiring author, please contact me with any questions you might have regarding the writing process. Happy Reading!